We all have been subject to pain instead of a proper kiss and if you haven’t, then you are lucky.
I had this boy not my boyfriend though but I hoped he would be. when his lips met mine Gosh! I was in hell, he didn’t know how to kiss at all and his hands (chai)…my breasts were in pain…but thank God…I got over him and the pain. My friend and I decided to give a LOT of hints on how a proper kiss should be done.
A kiss, which ranges from that of being respectful, to the platonic and to a passionate kiss as seen in movies (mostly romantic not some Jim Iyke movie o! lol ) involves bringing one’s lips in contact with someone else’s as a sign of affection
When you want to communicate passion or perhaps lust, not just any kiss will do. You need a fiercely passionate kiss. If done incorrectly, these kisses can turn out being gross or sloppy, but when performed with skill and feeling, there is no greater expression of love. Here’s how to do it right.
Prior to a romantic kiss, there are certain PRELIMINARIES that need be engaged:
– Put your lips in proper kissing order [Make them kissable » keep them attractive & inviting; soft, smooth & sweet; not dry, chapped or tense]. It will also be ideal to ensure your breath is minty fresh and clean (you can keep menthol candies or mints handy)
– Look inviting and approachable, put up a strong impression, likewise read the other person’s body language; Is this person into you? Or does this person seem uncomfortable?
– Reach out and break the “Touch Barrier”; this all depends on how romantically involved you both are. You could start by holding hands or a gentle kiss on the cheek and observe their response
– Stare at the person’s lips, make eye contact and move your gaze briefly down to the person’s lips then move your eyes back up to meet theirs and smile modestly and reservedly. You don’t have to be really obvious about it though
– Go in for the Kill [ Approach for the kiss – you could use your hands to gently urge your partner’s head or body into position without making them uncomfortable. As you draw nearer to your partner’s lips maintain eye contact ]. Angle your head so you don’t bump noses; Lean in and turn your head slightly
The Main course [ The Gently Lip lock ]
– As the lips meet, pucker them slightly (not like you kissing your mum though) and close your eyes, don’t “over-pucker” them (poke them out a little – don’t make it too stiff ,they have to be as soft as theirs to yours; be natural)
– Kiss your partner’s upper and lower lips gently then withdraw slightly with about an inch or 3cm between you and yours’ lips. Once you have kissed for a few seconds, pull back. (Four seconds is generally a good time, but don’t ruin the kiss by counting)
– Open your eyes, once your gaze meets theirs smile a little and decide whether or not to go for another. If the person wants to kiss again, you’ll know it. Be charming after the kiss, do NOT be cheesy and say things similar to, “Well, that was nice,” or “You’re a good kisser.” If one or both of you think that’s enough for today, pull away, smile, and shift your gaze elsewhere. If its going well then get on with it, move on to the next step.
– Kiss the upper and lower again but this time part your lips so that theirs goes between yours, put a little bit of pressure closing your lips as you pull away [ To get an idea of how much pressure would do, practice on the length of your finger or pinch one of your lips gently between your index finger and thumb to see how it feels to have someone kiss you this way ]
– Switch to the other lip [ Ideally if you are getting kissed on the upper lip you would be kissing the person’s lower lip and vice-versa and this can go on for quite some time alternating with closed-lip kisses
– Gently nibble or suck on their lips here and there. Breathe deeply.. Kiss the person like you just can’t get enough of them and like you might not get to kiss them again
Keep your arms busy. You seldom, maybe never, see a great kiss in which the participants just let their arms dangle at their sides. At the very least, embrace your partner and gently pull him or her to you. You can also run your hands through your partner’s hair; or caress his or her back, sides, or other parts of the body. Wrapping your arms around your partner can also be a big TURN-ON!! Where you put your hands should be determined by the status of your relationship, your desires, and your partner’s signals, whether spoken or communicated non-verbally.
Written by: @OloyeJohnson and @itweetpoetry